One of the questions, that I am asked often or other people are asked is " what do you find attractive in a guy/girl" or "what do you look for in a guy/girl"...
and the answer differs, depending on your age, on what stage of life your in, on your past relationship - definately this, because if you had a bad relationship, you try to avoid some types of characteristics (or just signs of certain characteristics) and/or try to find something that wasn't there ... ect.
These days, maybe its because I've grown up or maybe its because I am exhausted from the petty relationships I 've experienced... but I think the most important thing you must look for is, if you can be comfortable in front of that person... if you can show your naked self - not physically, well that too but more importantly mentally- in front of that person, just fragile and all vunerable, and do not care about it, no feel confortable doing it or having the feeling you want to do so.
If you can do that... than that is the person for you.
the thing is that, when I was trying to look for a good looking guy, that was easy...
when I was trying to find a guy that was highly educated and had exciting thoughts, that was also easy, well not as easy but possible...
but to find someone who can really see you through all the bull shit all the superficial cover up all the walls that surround you.... that is difficult...
it is almost impossible.
One of the reasons for this I guess is because, I myself do not know what my true self is...
But when you've found that person, and you know this, you shouldn't let him/her go... the only problem is that when you have it and had it for some time, you sometimes forget the value of what you are holding and tend to let it go for other unimportant things.
1 comment:
What you've written has given be something to think about. Also, you must be a fairly attractive girl (physically and/or personality wise). You definitely seem like a smart one. Good blog and keep up to good work.
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